The Hole In The Quilt And A Historic Moment

Davina and I already have so many wedding and partnership anniversaries, for every time we were able to access legal rights and benefits. We’re going to get married again on Labor Day, which is our twelfth anniversary together, in the same place we had our first ceremony 10 years ago.

Right now we’re just contacting friends and family, trying to coordinate everyone’s schedule. Anyone who’s ever planned a wedding knows how much work it is! (laughs) What’s really beautiful about the California Supreme Court decision is that we now have the same choices as heterosexual couples when it comes to planning a legal marriage.

This time it doesn’t have that same sense that it did when San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom began issuing marriage licenses, where you had to rush down to City Hall as fast as you could, and at any moment you thought that a court order might come in and stop it.

There’s something really beautiful about being able to be relaxed…it feels like we’re exercising our rights as full citizens of the United States. This time we don’t have to worry that someone’s going to take it away from us, although we know there’s a constitutional amendment fight in November still looming over us.

We have friends - couples who had been together 25 years - who aren’t even going to get married until after November because it’s just too painful to have it in jeopardy, but I think we’re going to be able to defeat the challenges in the state of California.

Davina And Molly

Growing up, everyone wants to get married and live happily ever after. That was certainly a dream I had as well. When you’re a little kid, you just want to live your dream.